Are we asking the right questions to ourselves ?

In our personal lives, we face challenges that test our emotional mettle. So often we turn away from life rather than towards it. We are masters of avoidance. One major reason why a challenge might intimidate us is because we don’t feel capable of handling it. Many times we view a challenge as irritating displeasure, when in fact it may hold a great opportunity to learn and grow. We may have a limited perception of our own abilities, so we automatically believe that the challenge is bigger than what we are.

If we learn to see each challenge as an opportunity to become stronger and more capable, everything would change. We can use challenging situations to unlock our untapped strengths and abilities. As children learn by asking questions, students learn by asking questions, Innovators understand client needs by asking questions same way in any of our role we can ask question and get clarity on the issue. It is the simplest and most effective way of learning. All the great inventors and scientists asked questions. Isaac Newton asked, “Why does an apple fall from a tree?” and, “Why does the moon not fall into the Earth?”

But we should have right questions lined up which will help us know the reality to face challenges. Let’s call it a Library of right questions when facing a challenge.

1. What is in my control?
2. What should I do to come out of this?
3. What end result do I want?
4. Is this an opportunity or a challenge?
5. What worse can happen in this situation?
6. What are the options that I have now?
7. Do I have any past anchors?
8. What’s the root cause of the problem?
9. What do I do to prevent escalation?
And many more…

Questions will not only help us to focus on reality but also help us to handle the situation in a good way. If we start by asking ourselves, “What can I learn from this experience?” it immediately puts a more positive spin on the situation. A right question allows us to discover something worth appreciating about our experience. It makes it possible to recognize true value that might have gone unnoticed, and to see opportunity and possibility instead of inconvenience and annoyance. Questions will set intelligence for that moment and then intelligence will decide actions for that moment.

So whenever you are stuck, always ask questions to yourself in order to move a step ahead and after asking question think “Are You Asking the Right Question?”